Resources
for Male Allies
Why We Know Men Care
Men Know Survivors
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Many of you know
someone who has been victimized – peer, friends,
partners or family members. And you choose to be
supportive.
Men Can Stop Rape
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Rape is a choice. All
men play a role by challenging rape and
assault-supporting attitudes
What Wentworth Men Say They Do…
The following are actual quotes taken from male
Wentworth students in response to the question:
“When you
hear or see something that is demeaning, how do
you respond?”
1.
The “Silent Stare”:
“A
disapproving look can be powerful.”
2.
The “Bring it Home”:
“I hope no
one ever talks to you like that.” or “What if
someone said your girlfriend deserved to be
raped?”
3.
The “We’re Friends, Right…” :
“My friends won't hang out in our room because
of the posters you have up on the wall."
How Men Can Make a Difference:
·
Watch out for your friends. Don’t be a
passive bystander if it seems your friends are
entering a potentially risky situation.
·
Interrupt sexist jokes and comments that
insult women or place them in an inferior
position
·
Avoid excessive use of substances and don’t
coerce others to use.
Although alcohol consumption may put an
individual at an increased risk of sexual
assault, the survivor is in no way responsible
for the assault. The perpetrators are
responsible for the assault and the choices they
made.
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Spread
the truth that being
turned down for sex doesn’t necessarily mean
rejection of you as a person. Saying no means
just means an unwillingness for a specific act
at a specific time.
·
Spread
the truth that you can’t
assume that spending money on a date entitles
you to sexual intimacy.
·
Don’t allow others to force or attempt to force
sexual relations with another person.
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